I Still Can't Believe That She Was Cheating On Me All This Time. I Need Your Advice PLEASE!

by Micah

I'm so depressed after learning that my fiancé has been cheating on me

I'm so depressed after learning that my fiancé has been cheating on me

I’ve been through a lot this past month and I wanted to share it with someone. My fiancé has been cheating on me for quite a while now.

I mean I feel terrible right now thinking about all the things I have in my mind but…

It’s bad to know that your fiancé was having another partner in the same time she was with you.
It’s disgusting even thinking about that…
All this time since we got engaged, Christina was actually having sex with her colleague from work.

Three days ago David, the guy with whom she was cheating on me with came and admitted their affair. At first it was funny for me because I know him. We have been on a several lunches together; I mean he has a wife and one boy, and I would have never even thought about that he and my fiancé have been in bed together for more than a year.

I was amazed by the fact that I didn’t notice anything unusual, maybe because of the fact that I’m working 10-12 hours a day and I come home after 6 PM.

Yes, maybe it’s my fault, but I spend each and every free moment with her, and she can’t complain about anything. I know myself and I know what I have done for her all these years since we are together.

When David made the confession to me, I didn’t punch him, thought maybe I should have. I mean it’s not his fault. We all know that 99 out of 100 men will do it. It’s my fiancé’s fault, my unfaithful girl who got everything from me, my heart, my soul, my trust and my honesty but obviously that was not enough.

Christina was everything in my eyes. I thought about marrying her since I first laid eyes on her, but now… here I am in a place where I need to choose whether I’m staying with her or I’m going to break off our engagement and our relationship.

First, I need to talk with her, and open all the cards on the table. I didn’t show anything till now, because that’s my nature. I have a very strong character and I’m very calm besides, I sometimes wish I was the one who explodes when he hears something like this.

I really need to hear your advice's. I especially want to hear if someone has already been in this situation, someone who has experienced the feeling of being cheated on.

What should I do? I was thinking about breaking off our relationship because I don’t believe that if once a trust is broken it can’t be fixed back again.

Please if anyone who can share their honest thoughts with me.

Micah

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I would leave. I'm sorry for your pain
by: Paul

Micah,

You seem like a good man and you certainly don't deserve what you are going through. I can not say your fiancé is not a good person, but what she did may not be repairable. It is definitely more than a one time slip up. Thats not to say that would be repairable either.

I can only speak for myself, but If my fiancé cheated on me I could not continue the relationship because I know I would not be able to marry her and trust her ever again.

I'm not sure what answer you are looking for but I would leave my fiancé if she cheater. Point blank!

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