Why is my husband such a liar? My gut is telling me he is being unfaithful.
Why is my husband such a liar? It seems that everything that comes out of his mouth lately is a lie. I'm starting to believe he is either a pathological liar or is he being unfaithful to me. An ongoing theme is that there is always something or some reason that he doesn't come home in a reasonable amount of time after work.
He is supposed to get off of work at 3 everyday. However, lately there is always some kind of excuse as to why he won't be home anytime close to that time. It is not everyday, but atlas twice a week there is some great mystery that prevents him from coming home or answering his phone in a timely manner. On those days, I will call him and it will either go straight into voicemail or he doesn't answer. It will take him a long time for him to call me back when this happens. The funny thing is, when I am with him, his phone is always attached to him and he is always available to take the calls no matter who is calling him.
On several of those occasions I have called him out for smelling like alcohol, and he will say he just stopped to have a quick drink before he came in. However, it actions and demeanor tells me he had more than just one drink.
I jut feel that he is now a compulsive liar or is lying to cover up the fact that he is sleeping around with someone else, or about to. I am such a loyal person and this is killing me. I believe relationships are built and maintained on trust. He is slowly destroying all the trust I have in him. Whatever trust I have left is slowly being crushed and dismantled with each new story that he tells me.
Why can't my husband stop lying and come clean if he really wants to end or marriage or be with someone else. I can't understand why he would prefer to stay with me if he really didn't want to be with me. We don't have any kids together, and we are both still young. I don't believe in divorce, but I also can't see myself staying in a marriage in which I am constantly disrespected and lied to.
Is there any hope that he will change his behavior? My gut tells me he is messing around, but I don't have any proof and by nature I always give people the benefit of the doubt. Please I need advice from anyone that has been in a similar situation. I am a very strong person, but my mind is a little clouded right now.