Internet infidelity, cyber cheating, and online infidelity are new buzz words that were never part of the language of relationships and marriage. But with advent of technology, it’s not surprising that the person with the inclination to cheat has found another avenue of infidelity.
To answer that question we need to look at what constitutes infidelity and faithfulness. According to the Indian Journal of Psychiatry’s October 2009 article, Online Infidelity: The New Challenge to Marriages: “Infidelity is commonly understood as a violation of the marital agreement, a betrayal of one's trust, and a threat to the marital bond.”
The article goes on to provide a definition of online infidelity: “the definition of infidelity now includes a romantic and/or sexual relationship with someone other than the spouse, which begins with an online contact and is maintained mainly through electronic conversations that occur through e-mail and chat rooms. The emphasis is on the process whereby individuals already involved in a committed relationship seek to be involved in computer synchronous, interactive contacts with members of the opposite sex.”
Understanding that infidelity that is confined to cyberspace is just as much a violation of marriage vows as is a steamy office affair, will help you understand and justify those feelings that something is wrong in your marriage.
So your spouse has changed and you are trying to figure out what’s going on, here are a few signs of internet cheating that you need to consider:
One thing you don’t want to do is to dismiss internet infidelity as being harmless or not a threat to your marriage. You know your spouse, and may sense that something has come between the two of you, interfering with your bond.
All too often what starts online eventually progresses to phone calls, and inevitably to face-to-face…or skin-to-skin…contact.
Remember, to trust your gut. Where there’s smoke there’s fire, and internet infidelity is one fire you want to put out right away.