My Husband Has Confessed About Kissing a Co-Worker

by Concerned Wife
(Colorado)

My husband and I have been going through a rough patch for the last 6 months. It is clear that we haven't been as connected as we use to be.


Let me add that we have been having a lot of financial stress during this time. After feeling us drift apart, I confronted him and eventually he confessed that he kissed a co-worker while out at a happy hour.

I feel so betrayed. I understand that we haven't been nearly as intimate as we use to but here I am stressed about our deteriorating marriage and there he is out kissing someone else.

I don't even know where to go next. How can I work on our marriage knowing what he has done? How do I know if he hasn't done more and If he will do it again?

I know that I still love him, but things are just so screwed up right now.

Please, I would like any serious advice that I can get.


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starstarstarstarstar 		If my husband kissed another woman, It would be over!
by: Anonymous

For me, the question wouldn't be "if he would do it again". Once is once too many times. If you allow him off the hook once, then your husband "will" cheat again. That is just the facts. Atl east that is how I see it.

If my husband confessed about kissing another woman, I would turn around, walk away and start to figure out my exit strategy. I know I sound cold, but like the person said above, "its a deal breaker!".

That is just me though.
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by: Anonymous

All I have to say is that you are married. Your husband is not supposed to be kissing anyone, and that would be a deal breaker for me.

I am not married, so I can only speak from my experience but if i were and my husband kissed another woman, I would have to walk away.

I hope I never find myself in that situation but good luck honey.
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starstarstarstarstar 		Did you trust him before?
by: Pam

Usually we can sense what type of person we are dealing with. Do you feel that your husband truly is a good person that maybe made a terrible mistake?

If you do, then don't kill yourself with the "what ifs". Deal with the known. If you can get pass the kissing, then work with that.

If you can't, then it doesnt really matter. Ofcourse, moving on he will have to go out of his way so that you can begin to trust him again.

That's just my two cents. I know some will say walk away, but I think the decision should go a little deeper. Just me.

Pam
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starstarstarstarstar 		Pray on it...
by: Anonymous

I know this won't seem like the answer and I am not sure if you are a religious person, but I pray on the things in my life that seem too difficult for me to rationally figure out.

Your emotions are running wild, and praying will give you that inner peace. The answer on which way to lead your life will present itself as well.

Take it one day at a time, and you will be guided down the right path. Hang in there. Infidelity is a tough one, and for some it is like losing a loved one.

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