Some may argue the causes of infidelity are not causes but rather excuses or the rationalizations for being unfaithful to your significant other. However you prefer to explain the betrayal of a once loved one, the reasons why men cheat and the answers to why do women cheat are many and varied, and you can always find a way to rationalize an affair.
The common answers to why a person seeks an intimate relationship with someone other than the partner with whom they have had a committed union include:
When one or both partners no longer offers physical or mental support and assistance, which may mean no affectionate pats on the arm or any kind words, emotional neglect occurs. It is difficult to recognize sometimes, as no one is abusing or even criticizing the other, yet something is definitely lacking in the relationship.
Emotional neglect is also very individualized as the level of emotional support a person needs varies from person to person. When one person who needs a lot of positive feedback begins a committed relationship with someone who needs very little, the potential for a disconnect increases.
Mid life crisis most frequently refers to that time in your life, when you realize you are not a kid anymore and feel that your are missing something, and frequently, it is a reason to buy a new sports car, try sky diving or sadly cited as one of the causes of infidelity.
Elaine Wethington, a Cornell sociologist, believes that less than 20% of people actually experience mid life crisis but rather a real life crisis occurs such as death of a loved one or loss of a job during their middle years.
When looking for causes of cheating in a relationship, you need to ask the question: what-is-a-habitual-cheater? The habitual cheater has a long history of cheating and has multiple affairs while his or her partner believes he or she is in a monogamous relationship. In order for this type of cheater to change, he or she has to want to change and be willing to face the reason or reasons why he or she continues to behave this way.
According to a study group of predominately women, the most common causes of infidelity were their once committed relationship was not satisfying their emotional or sexual needs, or they fell in love with someone else. Keeping in mind what attracted you to your partner in the first place, working to keep things interesting and staying connected to your significant other, are the preventative actions that may help you and your partner avoid infidelity.
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